The role of a mother in the life of her children A Journey from the Womb to the Tomb A mother is someone whose love is unconditional,selfless and unlimited. There is nothing in this world that can define the love of a mother, she is a fearless,unselfish and a compassionate being. In any language the word “mother” is a word of magic to the ears of children. A mother is the person who the child admires the most. The role of a mother in the life of her children begins from the womb, and leaves a great impact on the life of her children till they reach the tomb. They are the core strength of the family. They are the one who weave the lives of their children, children are like those blank papers which are given to your custody by Allah Almighty, it is now what you write on them. Your role is of paramount importance. A role which you will be questioned about. The society depends on you as a individual to raise responsible kids. It is important that mother's don't misuse this prestigious position given by Allah Almighty, a position which should never be taken for granted. The advice the mother gives to her children leaves a deep impact in their lives. It is more that the child learns from what she sees than what she is said to do. The mother's words, acts, dressing, attitude is what the child thinks is the best and makes it a point to imitate because they believe that the mother is the hero of their lives and they should be followed. It is indeed true that they should be the hero of their children’s life. The part here to be played is by the mother, to behave in the way they want their children to behave, to dress the way they want their children to dress, to eat, drink, love, deal and respect they want their children to do. It is what happens at home, which effects the society. I don't blame my children of what they do if I have not taken responsibility of it or If I am not up to the mark in my attitude I cannot expect my children to do magic. Respect is one important aspect which needs more time. How do you expect your children to respect your elders when they see you being disrespectful to them? When a child observes his/her mother treating parents and all elders with utmost respect then it is easy for them to do the same. Children walk on the footsteps you show them, you are the light for them. Your words will design the personality of your children. When children get married, the mother's role becomes the most vital, all the years of teaching is now going to take the practical effect. Now is where the daughter's especially become more reliant on their mother, for advice. It is now when all the years of learning will take effect, you might see that she might start looking like you more, her attitude will remind you of yours, you will definitely see your self in your daughter. Small problems faced by their daughters should be wisely discussed, mothers should never encourage the daughter when she is being disrespectful to their elders, it is important to teach them to be patient. The first few years of marriage virtually depends on the advice of the mothers, rest will take a smooth road because the mother teaches the child the way to live a respectful, loving and collaborated relationship. If the mother encourages the child to be revengeful, loud and proud in a relationship, then she actually does not realise that the future of the society and her family will be ruined. I always admired my mother for being very generous and forgiving, I would like to share with you my personal experience, of which actually had a huge impact on my life, Allhamdulliah I have a very loving husband. At times we have an argument for some bizarre reason, I do not have a habit of complaining to anyone, but my voice tone becomes low when I am upset Mother's have a magic wand, when I am on the phone, my voice tone makes it obvious, she says in a loving tone “did you have an argument?” …..lol, she then goes on to tell me reminding me of all the good things about my husband and then tells me out of all the good things you have in your husband, why do you get upset with one small thing, go and apologise to him, you will raise your rank in the hereafter. This actually made me realise how fortunate I am to have a mother like this.... I wish to be like her... and learn from her the magical way of building a wise family. InshaAllah by Sharmeen Syeeda —