It doesn't matter if my parents are together or apart, they will never get along - ever. There is absolutely no love between them, sometimes I wonder how they got together to produce children. From a very young age I could see the tension between them just rising every single day until one of them cracked and this resulted in a massive argument. Of course violence was involved. I remember being frightened when I was a little girl, frightened that today someone's definitely going to leave and never come back, or today one of them's gonna kill the other. Thank God that they're both still alive but it's better that they're apart. But ... even though they are apart, I don't think they'll ever stop hating each other. Hate is a strong word, but I can't think of any other word to describe their feelings toward one another. I love my parents, I do. But sometimes I wish they'd set a better example for us when we were growing up. Leave the fights for when we're at school or just don't fight at all, think of the children. Or, don't drag the children in, making them choose sides. It is the worst thing a parent could ask their children, choose a side? We're not playing a Football game here, this is family. I feel like my parents have taught me how not to love instead of how to love. I know to be a better wife to my husband, take care of him and not give in to his every need, but keep him happy. I know not to go for a guy who is controlling, always angry, who is violent. I know not to create a rubbish environment for my children, to shower them with love, to give them attention and to never involve them in disputes between my husband and myself. This is all a lesson for my future, for when I find the one and want to get married to him and create a family with him. Growing up is never going to be easy, but I just wish things between my mother and father were different. I am sure if they passed each other on the street today, they wouldn't even acknowledge each other, they'd just go on as if they'd never met, married and created a family together.